I Have a Great Life, but I’m Fucking Depressed!

By TheChicSeeker, March 31, 2016

That was me a few years back. On the outside I had great life, a beautiful home, a flourishing career, financial freedom and good friends, On the inside my soul felt dead. I was depressed.

 

I would wake up in the morning with a voice full of negativity and self-sabotage. I was finding social situations a chore and felt like I was acting all the time – pretending everything was okay. I would always tell myself that I have a great life and shouldn’t complain. But internally there was a feeling of dis-ease.

 

I started having acupuncture and was told by the clinician that the treatment could bring up emotions. She said that if I needed someone to talk to, in order to process these emotions, I could book a session with their in house therapist. At first, I thought, “pfft, I don’t need that!” Until I had another car crash relationship and felt like it was all my fault. So I booked an appointment with this therapist and she helped me work through the depression.

 

I had a lot of stigma and shame attached to asking for help and admitting to having therapy. It felt self indulgent. I would question why some of us are unable to get through our ‘issues’ alone. I even considered returning to Church to get help for free!

 

I remember first sitting in her little room and wanting her to literally tell me what to do with my life and how I would get better. I quickly realized this is not how therapy works, which was a little frustrating to me at first!

 

However, I have found (and continue to find) huge benefits in seeking professional, therapeutic help. I have healed old wounds and recognized patterns in my relationships and decision making processes. I have developed new ways of cummunicating and have a much deeper understanding of myself. I have been so grateful and inspired by the impact that therapy has had on my life that I want to support people on their healing journeys. That’s why I am studying Spiritual Psychology.

 

In America, having a therapist is almost like a badge of honour. Unlike the UK, where the stiff upper lip is still curling and a stiff drink saves all. But as the old saying goes, a problem shared is a problem halved. Sometimes we don’t want to burden our friends or our family with our deepest fears or our darkest secrets. And, even though our immediate loved ones may have our best interest in mind, they may have a bias listening and are not trained in matters of human behavior. That’s why seeking professional help is your best self-care.

 

Click on the next blog – What is the difference between a therapist/counsellor and a Life Coach?

Transformational books that got me started on my journey

A New Earth Eckhart Tolle

Getting the Love You Want Harville Hendrix

A Return to Love Marianne Williamson

You Can Heal Your Life Louise Hay

 

Looking for a Counsellor?

Qualified Integrative-Relational Counsellor Sadiye Purslow based in the UK

I recently came across Better Help on Instagram – this connects you to licenced therapists

Remember, you don’t need to be in the same country as your therapist, using Skype is an excellent way of communicating and it means you can don’t need to travel anywhere and can have sessions on the comfort of your own sofa, or even in bed!